Non-denominational wedding readings

Love might be both patient and kind but Corinthians 13:4-7 is not for every bride and groom.  If you are looking to side-step religious wedding readings, check out my three suggestions below:

Drew Barrymore and  Adam Sandler in The Wedding Singer

Drew Barrymore and Adam Sandler in The Wedding Singer


Novel: Jane Eyre by Charlotte Brontë

Jane Eyre is one of my all-time favourite novels. The quote below is painfully romantic as well as conventional enough to fit perfectly in a traditional wedding ceremony.

I have for the first time found what I can truly love – I have found you. You are my sympathy – my better self – my good angel; I am bound to you with a strong attachment. I think you good, gifted, lovely: a fervent, a solemn passion is conceived in my heart; it leans to you, draws you to my centre and spring of life, wraps my existence about you – and kindling in pure, powerful flame, fuses you and me in one.


Film/songI wanna grow old with you by Adam Sandler (as sung in The Wedding Singer)

If you don’t love this Adam Sandler/Drew Barrymore film, it can only be because you haven’t seen it. This song was performed by Adam’s character in a very romantic airplane scene. It might be an unusual choice, but for an unpretentious, fun wedding, it would be brilliant. As a bonus, the lyrics also lends itself very well to personalisation.


Poem: I carry your heart with me by E. E. Cummings

I first heard this beautiful poem in the movie In Her Shoes, where Cameron Diaz reads it during the wedding of her character’s sister, played by Toni Collette. It brought me to tears! Unsurprisingly it is one of the most popular non-religious readings at weddings, and rightfully so. My favourite part is the ending which goes:

here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows
higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart

i carry your heart (i carry it in my heart)

Toni Collette and Cameron Diaz


The selection above is of course just a drop in the ocean of non-denominational works out there.  If none appeal to you, I hope they have at least served as inspiration!

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