Different wedding speech tones
When I was asked to be the best man at my first brother’s wedding, I didn’t really think about how I was going to tackle the speech that I would have to make. Only as the day drew closer, did I realise what a daunting prospect it was. Although I work with actors, I’m no performer and so giving a speech didn’t come naturally to me, as it would to, say, Christian Slater!
There are a number of different tones which can be taken when making a speech, but I believe that the most important thing is to make it a tone that suits you. The whole point of a wedding speech is to give a personal message to the couple in public. So depending on your personality, you can make it funny, sentimental, nostalgic, heart-felt or whatever tone you personally feel comfortable with.
Just be yourself
Having seen a couple of disastrous wedding speeches, I was determined not to make the same mistakes. The biggest problem was people trying to be funny, when they really weren’t funny people. Someone who isn’t a naturally funny person might be better off making a really heart-felt, honest speech. Likewise, someone who is naturally a funny person, should play to their strengths – whether it is telling gags or storytelling to give an entertaining and funny speech.
Another common mistake is to make a speech more formal than it needs to be. Remember, this is a celebration, and while it could be heaped in tradition, the speeches are the link between the formalities and the party, and they should try to reflect this. The formalities being the toasts and thanking the parents, guests and organisers, and the actual speech should be a little more relaxed. It should show your personality – without taking away from the fact that it’s is the couple’s day, not yours!
Having now made a few speeches in my life, I have realised that it really isn’t that hard. The key is to stay faithful to yourself and your personality. Do this and you can’t go wrong.